RE: Love and Marriage

"I realize that most folks enter into marriage with a false idea of what love really is. I've watched too many of my friends rush into marriage only to divorce a few years later because the "spark" had gone. Guess what? That spark is called infatuation and it never lasts. It isn't supposed to. That's what gets us together and true agape love is what keeps us together."

Beautifully said, Behethland. I couldn't agree more.

"And I think that is the point of the article."

No it wasn't. The article is nothing more than a pretty weak apologia for homosexual "marriage." It is propaganda, and not very convincing propaganda at that.

"Back when a woman married for a companion and a helper she wasn't so fast to leave him. Co-dependancy (emotional, physical and financial) is what keeps a marriage together, like it or not."

Wow! Who called in the cynical Behethland? I want the Behethland from the first paragraph back. If co-dependency is all you have, you better start looking for a good lawyer now. What happened to true love? You just contradicted yourself. You're describing infatuation followed by serfdom. That doesn't sound like the same thing you described in the first paragraph, and it doesn't describe a single one of the long-term successful marriages of which I know.

"And counting on someone makes love grow stronger."

In some cases, I would agree, but there must have been a pretty strong basis in love to begin with.

"Some folks then as well as now DO understand true love and recognize the fact that love changes over time."

Absolutely. And they are the couples who are still married after fifty years. Welcome back, paragraph one Behethland.

"But many, many never do, leaving them with little incentive to stay together."

Yep. It is a tragedy.